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Talk to you all when I get back!
I am off in just a few minutes.....I won't have internet access available.....so.....Bon Voyage for a while!
While I'm away...I'd love for any of you to take time to write....write your thoughts right here on this post...make sure you put in the security thing...the encrypted letters they want you to see and then put in....and then push 'post'....to make sure it goes through....
I'd love to hear from you! I'd love to know where you're from...what you do....how you found my blog, etc.....
I can't wait to get back! I will really miss you guys!
Talk to you asap.
Today I'm going to drive all the way to Sonic for no other reason than to get myself my favorite drink, Diet Cherry Limeade...with fresh limes and cherries tucked inside.....and, I'm going to sit in my car, in the shade....and enjoy it.....while I listen to my favorite CD by Nickel Creek that everyone in my house is sick of.....then, I'm going to look around at the blue sky, the fluffy clouds and the mommies sitting on the metal chairs and tables wiping ice cream off of their baby's faces.....and I'm going to thank God that I am alive and have so many incredible things to be thankful for and to be happy about......and I'm going to choose to think only of those things for most of the day......
Because, I really believe that is the best way to take care of ourselves.....to find small things to love, appreciate and delight us...and to focus on all that is good and wonderful.
Just found this quote....I hope you all enjoy it!
"For most of life, nothing wonderful happens. If you don't enjoy getting up and working and finishing your work and sitting down to a meal with family or friends, then the chances are that you're not going to be very happy. If someone bases his happiness or unhappiness on major events like a great new job, huge amounts of money, a flawlessly happy marriage or a trip to Paris, that person isn't going to be happy much of the time. If, on the other hand, happiness depends on a good breakfast, flowers in the yard, a drink or a nap, then we are more likely to live with quite a bit of happiness."
Make it a Happy, Meaningful Day....and do something special to take care of yourself today.
Lots of Love from Idaho!
Wednesday - Expect Difficulty Issue 2
This week has been so interesting...seems like every day I get a phonecall or revisit one of my old issues that teaches me about how life changes work. They are painful simply because it is very difficult to give up how things are now....or what we have now....even if what we are moving toward is profoundly better for us.
My life is in more of a transition right now than it has ever been....my life is changing in good and necessary ways, but many of them are tremendously painful. I hate that we have to give things up in order to have other things...even if the other things are better. I guess this is truly the definition of sacrifice....to give up something good for something even better....and, any progression in life requires sacrifice....
Someone very special to me, who I love very very much, just broke up her engagement. I listened to her and supported her over the weeks of making the decision, and both of us knew it was the right thing...so, you would think that if it's the right thing, it would feel good.....but, there's so many times when we have to grieve those good things....because, even if they're not the best things in our life anymore....we still love them and care about them....even if they are not even good for us at all, we have still learned to be comfortable with them and moving away is scary and lonely and unknown and sad and devastating....even if it's the right thing. So many things in life are this way. That someone in my life is grieving right now...sorrowfully grieving that good thing in her life that was not the best thing.....
Another very special friend has just made the decision to give up her beloved career to be at home with her family....she was left at a crossroads in her life...things changed...when before, she could not have given up her career for financial reasons.....she was given the opportunity....and, although she knew for sure that it was the best thing for herself and her family...it was a difficult and painful decision....the thought of it has left her feeling sad, grieving......she is moving toward such a wonderful time in her life, what she has really dreamed of, yet she has to take the time to do the necessary grieving that is so much a part of giving things up that mean so much to us.
And....grieving must happen, it is necessary....and it is ok. It is ok to feel sad and bad as we say goodbye to parts of our life that have been as much a part of us as our own skin....it is necessary and it is honorable....even if the things that are before us are beautiful and worthy of a celebration.....life just seems to be so much about saying goodbye and saying hello, closing doors and opening other ones, grieving and celebrating....
....and we need to give ourselves permission to do it....we need to expect it and embrace it and sit with the feelings we have and let them have their time to work themselves out.
I needed this today.......hope someone else out there does, too. I wish for all of you things to celebrate and time to say goodbye to the things you have to put aside....even if it's just for a little while.
Make it a Meaningful Wednesday!
I get to meet a lot of fantastic people in my travels...and sure, I was a fan of The Apprentice and I watched Troy with the rest of the millions who watched him take New York City by storm....but I must admit...when I was getting ready for my first meeting with Troy a while back...I made some unfair assumptions...I thought the fame would have surely gotten to him...that he'd show up in a $2000 suit in a luxury car, proving that he's living the high life...that the success and worldwide acclaim would have taken the country boy out of him and turned him into a high-rollin' stuffed suit.......
Man, was I wrong.
Troy is a family man...Troy is living the American Dream...and was even before his fame on The Apprentice. He is highly successful in business and in life...he is madly in love with his wife and crazy about his mom and his sister.....Troy showed up in cowboy boots and jeans in the same truck he's always had. Troy is just a really, really good person. He is unforgettable because of his raw, unapologetic authenticity. I have rarely been so impressed with another human being.
So, it is with great pleasure that I share this interview with you (hopefully you'll be able to LISTEN to the podcast before I leave on my vacation...)....and I can hardly contain myself when it comes to talking about the projects we are working on together...but, I must....
I am introducing the fabulous Troy McClain...wanting to know what you're all about....so let's get right to the first question....Troy, how has telling YOUR unique story been a powerful experience in your life?
Oh my goodness! I’m all nervous now! Well, first of all my life before going on The Apprentice was 10 miles to the left and 10 miles to the right and I spent most of my life ‘mendin’ fences and skinnin’ my fists’…on trying to do the right things….then all of a sudden, you get catapulted into 27 million Americans a week and my wife is the one that I owe the most credit to because she’s the one that sent in my application and said that I can do it….and the way that it’s changed my life is just that it’s simply introduced the values that I’ve always had, and it’s introduced me…to America, which I never would have been able to do door to door, and now, the power of media has allowed 27 million people to see me and to really let everybody out there know that there’s good people out there! And the good people are right next door to you and sometimes they’re even on your tv!
So, how has your story helped others? Because I know you get letters and emails and all sorts of feedback because you are so open with your life stories….
You know, I don’t know how it’s helped others…just by sharing it. I don’t know if you saw the Dateline NBC episode that they did about me, or even if you go to my website, you’ll see…as a young man, my mama always had a positive outlook about things, and she’d say “Troy, we’re upgrading the house!” So I’d think, “Great!” So, I used to think we were rich because we were always upgrading houses…well, later on in life I found out that we were being evicted and we weren’t upgrading houses…and when I share those funny stories, now they’re funny, but going through that was an extreme struggle, and while going through those things, sometimes I didn’t think we were going to make it through them…but, it was because of my mom’s positive self image, and because of her positive ways of presenting things that we didn’t realize that things were that bad, even though our heart and our gut knew it was, we also knew that we were going to get through it…then, later on in life, in 1998, I took over legal guardianship of my kid sister…my kid sister is profoundly deaf and developmentally delayed. Doralyn McClain is her name, and I always mention her when I do interviews. But, I think my story has influenced people because I shared….and I think there’s a lot of successful people out there that don’t share their story, and when you don’t share your story…perception is reality…and people think “Oh, he’s always been rich…” or “He’s always been famous…” and I ain’t always been rich and I ain’t always been famous, but I’ve gone through the same struggles that people listening to this have gone through or ARE going through…and I’m willing to bet that my struggles aren’t HALF as hard as somebody else out there…and I’m also willing to bet that some of my struggles are twice as hard…but the point is…when people listen to my story…they think “Hey, if he can do it, so can I….” I mean come on, I’m a Podunk from Idaho! (melody…”Don’t knock that! I’m right here with you!) I tell everybody that, but I truly say it, as cliché as it sounds…that you can do it! But, you have to have faith and family…and you have to be able to crush the resistance with your persistence! You’ve got to continue to strive through those walls…don’t climb through them, break through them! I mean, forget about looking at it and thinking ‘that’s a long way to climb…’ run right through them because I did…and probably the biggest inspiration IS my little sister…again, she’s profoundly deaf and developmentally delayed, yet EVERY SINGLE MORNING, she wakes up with a smile on her face…and to her, the world is great! And, I’m not gonna let her think any other way…and I’m gonna start adopting the way SHE thinks. And, when I share those stories with people, that’s what I think inspires people the most…because they think “You know what, he’s stumbled!” I have stumbled and I have failed…I’ve failed more than I’ve succeeded, and I tell people that…but the success that I’ve had is because of all of the lessons that I’ve learned through failing. And so when you share those stories, people are inspired, and I’m glad they are!
Ok, Troy…this is a question that I’ve asked people on my blog…and I’d like you to answer it too….What were you great at as a child, what did you really enjoy…and how have you transferred that into your adult life?
What was I great at? I think I was probably great at finding common ground, with anybody and everybody…I could always relate to whoever was in the room, and I’ve been able to take that into business…to be able to take that common ground…and that’s probably one of the most important things that I’ve discovered in business now…big business people and small business people….big business and employees, husband and wife…people just don’t look for the common ground, they try to move someone into THEIR area, rather than moving into a common area…and I’ve really looked at my life as a child and thought “Man, I pretty much got along with everybody…” and, it was because I was willing to give a little bit to get a little bit…and now I look at my business, and my relationship with my wife, and I’m willing to give a little bit to get a little bit…and that’s probably the greatest success from childhood that I continue to bring into today…to just find that common ground with people.
I love that! I love it!
Ok….everyone has fears…what are you most afraid of…and what do you do to overcome your fears daily?
Oh my goodness…that’s a good one…My fear is not being successful, and my definition of success is different than most…and I’ll kind of let you know that whenever you get asked a question and you have to answer it, you should ask the definition of that word…somebody asked me if I felt lucky…and I said, “yeh, I’m extremely lucky!” but, my definition of luck is being prepared for opportunity when it arises…so, if you have the same definition of luck as I do…you’ll know that I was prepared for that opportunity and so I’m just fearful of not being successful…and my definition of success is being able to take care of my family, and give them everything that they’ve given me over the years…give them the same feeling that they’ve given me…and I’m not talking about money or anything of monetary value…but the feeling I have in my heart and the feeling I have in my soul…I want to every day be able to give that back to them. And, if I’m not doing that, I’m not being successful…so that’s my biggest fear…my biggest fear is not being successful.
Ok, I know you have an absolutely crazy schedule…how do you juggle such a busy schedule while keeping your marriage great and keeping your relationship with your mom and your sister the way that you want it?
Well, I definitely do have a crazy schedule, I did 160,000 domestic air miles last year, this year I just checked and I’m at 171,000 miles. So, I’ll break the 200,000 mile mark in domestic air miles…and what we do is we travel the country doing public speaking…and people ask the question…how DO you do that…and the way you do that is incorporating….you know, incorporations…when someone tells you to start a business, they say ‘incorporate!’ I say…incorporate your family! You know, include them in, I mean I incorporate my mother, my little sister…she’s a part of my speaking when I speak, my mother is a part of my consulting when I consult…and my wife is my full-time business partner…and she’s not my business partner at home or at business…she’s my business partner in life, so I incorporated all of them IN to my business, so even though I travel 3 out of 4 weeks of the month, they’re with me…they’re with me in my mind and in my heart and I communicate with them constantly, from my wife handling my business schedule, to my mom, my wife and my sister sitting down and making business decisions together…”how do you feel about me going to China? What are the benefits and the consequences?” and I ask them about it, we share it together…and I do it all with their permission…I say “tell me what do you think about this? Give me your opinion…” I don’t always agree with their opinion, but I always GET their opinion…and I think that’s how you juggle all of that…to incorporate them into your life and I was doing that before I did all of this…and I thank God above and believe that that is why we have such strong family and why my business IS so successful, because your best business partners ARE your family.
What do you have to say to people who think that their life stories are small….or too small to share?
You know, I think anybody who thinks their life story is to small to share just needs to look at me. I mean, I sat here and argued with my wife…the day we got home from our honeymoon, and she saw the advertisement for The Apprentice and she said “Troy, you’ve got to share your life story and send it out there” …and I refused to do it…my wife is the one that filled out that application and sent it out there…and, she sent the videotape in..and said “Troy, you need to do this..” I thought my story was too small….but anytime you think your story is too small you miss-out on big big opportunities…on to the public speaking…like you saw on my video…when Mark Victor Hansen called me and asked me to come and speak and share my story, he said “You need to tell your story because you can CHANGE somebody’s life…” and, if it wasn’t for those words of encouragement, I wouldn’t be changing anyone’s lives…by me changing their life…they’re continuing to change mine…because it motivates me…so…you’re story is never too small to share, it’s always important to communicate and always important to throw it out there…because you’re gonna inspire SOMEBODY…
Absolutely! And you have inspired me today..and I thank you…and I want everyone to PLEASE go to www.troymcclain.com to hear your whole story…so beautiful. Make sure you watch the video….get some Kleenex!
Okay, for sure, it's a much better day than yesterday!!
Just spent the day with a couple of incredible and fabulous people that I'll soon be working with....one of them is the incredible, authentic and inspiring Troy McClain.....(and you'll be meeting the other one soon!) But, he's done so much more than being the #1 favorite on Donald Trump's Apprentice....he's just a great small town guy with a lot of grit and whole lot of heart.....
So....stay tuned as I type out this very thought-provoking and meaningful interview....and hopefully I can get the digital soundtrack on here, too!!
.....you'll love what he has to say and as promised....you'll adore him.
Go check him out at www.troymcclain.com
a great guy with a great story....just like all of us.....(well, the great story part, at least!)
Keep checking in....I'll be typing as fast as I can!!!
Oh my, how I could write a very long book listing and explaining all of the things that I am afraid of....If you look to the left, in the green column, and scroll all the way down...you'll see my all time favorite quote, because it really defines me.
"I have been absolutely terrified every moment of my life, but I've never let it keep me from doing a single thing I've wanted to do." -Georgia O'Keefe.
Last night, my very wonderful friend called...who I also work with, and she told me that I looked extra tired today, and she's sorry for all of the disasters that I had to clean up...and she knew what kind of gosh-awful day I had yesterday, and let me tell you...it was a doooooozy. She told me that she thinks I am invincible. I am the invincible woman........
I am just terribly, terribly tired. I am exhausted. I am worn to a thread.......and sometimes, I fear that I am a doormat.
So, that is my big fear today...........and, I know when you saw this image, you did not even have a question in your mind of...."hmmmmmm, I wonder what she means by that?" Because, we women lay down and take feet of all sizes, treads of shoes..........
And, I am so much better than I used to be....SO MUCH. I used to be the ultimate pleaser, at the sacrifice of every single thing that my heart desired or needed.....and, really, I'm not like that any more.....but, when I get this tired....my FEARS come back up.
We need sleep and care to be able to battle our fears.
Who else on the sofa today has fears of being the ultimate 'lay-down-and-take-it' doormat? Well, I went to bed last night before 8pm, even swallowed 1/2 of a Tylenol PM......and really, I didn't want to wake up until Thursday.....
But, I am well rested today and ready to take it on.....and I am up, instead of down......but, still I fear...........
TOday is the big interview I promised you...coming soon....so, off I go to get dressed and ready!!
Today will be a better day.....
And, I will Make it Meaningful.
Hope you will too,
I was thinking this weekend about an incredible & simple experience that I had last year, and I want to share it with you.
I’m going to ask you just one question that has the power to change your life and get you back on the path you were intended to be on…I want you to answer this question for yourself, then really focus on it for the entire week….first let me tell you about how I was lucky enough to gain this perspective…..
Through a series of FORTUNATE events, I found myself, last October, having a one-on-one meeting with Stephen Covey in Hawaii. In 45 minutes, he completely changed the course of my thinking and set me on a different path for myself, or reaffirmed much of the direction I was already going…..and, it was all so simple….no lectures, just one question….
“What were you exceptionally good at as a child, that you loved doing and that made you happier than anything?”
He told me that when I found the answer to that question, I would know what to do with my life. The words and thoughts that Dr. Covey wrapped around this question reminded me that all of us are born with a unique set of talents, desires & abilities that are our imprint and gift to the world. He challenged me to go back to my childhood and find the simple things that sang to me, that made me feel alive….he said that we really are all BORN with our work…that it’s born into us, we just have to find it and never forget it once we have.
For me, it was seeing the bright side, seeing things in different ways, and painting life or paper or conversations in the ways that I saw them….really. I know it seems small, but the small things really are the big things. I remember for my brother, it was figuring things out….in a very scientific way, a mathematical way, he was always taking things apart and putting them back together…always analyzing things…today he’s a gifted scientist.
This one question, when carefully and thoughtfully answered, can be a powerful catalyst for change…
But, what do we do with the answer?
This week, when you answer that question…find things to do to get you back in that groove…you’ll be shocked at the light that begins to radiate from your heart and right through your skin…even if you just practice at whatever it is for 10 minutes a day.
So…choose whatever it is...or whatever it WAS and start to study it in your heart…and if you’ve completely lost touch with that part of yourself, do some research……look for photos, Google the subject, ask your parents what they remember about it.
If it’s something that you can’t do anymore, read about it anyway….figure out some way to get involved or experience it again somehow….do just a few things that get you back in touch with your old self, even if it’s just 10 minutes a day….then, your old self will start talking to you again….reminding you of who you really are.
And…if you are a parent or an Aunt or a Grandma or a Godmother…the greatest gift that you will EVER give the children in your life is to help them to see, nurture and grow their own unique gifts…and for YOU to be ok with what they are, and not try to change them into something else.
I have started to deeply write again about how I see things…it’s been years, and nothing makes me happier….when I write, it spills over into other parts of my life, I become alive and aware…and I embrace even more of who I am. Soon, I’ll start painting again. Maybe this week!
Just do it, friends…you’ll be so glad you did….
When you find your answer…will you please share?
Have a Very Meaningful Monday,
Starting this week, I'll be doing at least one weekly interview with people who I think are absolutely fabulous, I'm quite sure you'll agree.....
This week.....watch for a fun interview with a much adored person (I'm sure most of you know him!) who lives a beautiful life of service...can't wait to share the thoughts of this incredible & authentic individual.....
This will be so fun!
Madi told me yesterday morning that she'd help me take some photos for my BLOB.....so, we decided to document the whole day...mostly....I did crash at about 4pm and had to take a nap until Marq got home..........but, here's the day...and for the most part, I got pretty much everything done that I wanted to....that doesn't usually happen......so, it was a good day!
Well, I got up on Saturday morning...alone, of course...because Marq still wasn't home, and I had crashed so hard because I was just thoroughly exhausted from traveling all week......I got up to count heads...which I do whenever I wake up...in the middle of the night, in the morning, whenever I wake up I have to go through the house and count my kid's heads....and Brock was gone too....so, I found Malary and Mitch in the living room, Max was already up and at the computer....and Madi...I couldn't find her....but, sometime after I'd told them all goodnight and tucked them in, they made a tent and migrated there or to the living room.....always the case on the weekends........Madi woke up when I took a photo of her in the tent, because I had to use the flash......she told me she'd help me take some more photos for my 'blob' and she thought it would be cool if we took pictures of everything we did all day......so, she took a shot when I went for my run....right after I got everyone up and told them the plans for the day........I would go for a run, then go pick up Brock, then we'd clean the house and the yard, go to the office and make my handouts for my class at cut-n-paste, take them to PoJo's (and indoor amusement place) go to my class, go get Father's Day stuff, get home in time for Malary to go babysit for the evening, and hopefully make it home in time to be there when Dad gets home.....
And, we did it!
I have to admit that I did not do the whole day with grace. I was very stressed....and tired still.....when I look at these pictures I can see just how tired I am.....
I had to include the photo of Madi that she took of herself when she was trying to take a photo of me teaching......they didn't really turn out, but I thought this photo of her was hilarious....
I had a blast teaching, and hope that my points came across clearly in spite of how clouded my mind was....we made a little book to remind us WHY we scrapbook, because we all know that it gets discouraging and tiresome at times...but it is SO important to keep documenting our stories! I met the most incredible women and I am SO proud of Lori for celebrating, successfully, the 2 year anniversary of her beautiful store.
I loved being with Christy, too....I always do...........she is one of the most phenomenal women I have ever known, 100% authentic. She inspires me every day.
And, when we got home, I was so happy to see Marq, and he asked me to go out on a date......so, we went and spent the KFC gift certificate he got for taking all of the area KFC managers out to the lake wakeboarding for their managers meeting (our friends own a kajillion KFC's and asked him to entertain their managers on the lake....he loves to take people to the lake), even though he can't wakeboard anymore. A KFC gift certificate? Yes, they exist....hmmmmmm.
And, we got to take our 'date car' which I love.....even though the brakes are scary.....and the windows only roll down sometimes....and it squeeks really loud when you turn corners.......Marq surprised me with this '66 Thunderbird last year on my birthday....and we take it out when we go out alone....it's lots of fun and very 'meaningful' to me.
And...when we got home, the kids had put this pile of Father's Day surprises out in the kitchen, and even put some new stuff on Marq's iPod...larry the cableguy....which, I don't care who you are, is funny...mostly.....
And, I hope that Monday is as productive. It's going to be an in-sane week, we leave for our big family vacation on Thursday....it will be interesting to see how our preparations roll out over the next 4 days, while juggling an in-sane catch-up schedule at work. We'll see!!!
Hope you had a great weekend!
Can't wait to read what's happening in your life!
ps. Oh yeh, and i just HAD to show you all my very favorite pair of lime green cowboy boots......a staple if you ask me.